50 Things I Wish Someone Would Daily Remind My Mom Self

  1. You can’t let your happiness be dependent on your children’s obedience. You just can’t.
  2. You can’t equate saying “yes” as “loving” and “no” as “unloving.” You just can’t.
  3. You can’t spend your hours, days, and weeks trying to make your children happy. You just can’t.
  4. You can’t live the exact same life you lived before children. You just can’t.
  5. You can’t live believing that you can protect your children from all harm. You just can’t.
  6. You can’t take pride in their good behavior or total responsibility for their bad behavior. You just can’t.
  7. You can’t believe that your children won’t hurt you or that you won’t hurt them. You just can’t.
  8. You can’t grow your marriage by spending all your energy on your children. You just can’t.
  9. You can’t assume that you (as the mother) knows the best way to parent your children. You just can’t.
  10. You can’t believe that if you do ‘A’ and then do ‘B,’ you’ll get ‘C.’ You just can’t.
  11. You can’t believe that your children will solve your problems, fulfill your needs, or satisfy your eternal cravings. You just can’t.
  12. You can’t run a perfectly organized house devoid of mess. You just can’t.
  13. You can’t change the heart of your child. You just can’t.
  14. You can’t neglect friendships while raising your children. You just can’t.
  15. You can’t create space for your family if your calendar is constantly booked. You just can’t.
  16. You can’t expect your family to grow without watering it, weeding it, and watching it. You just can’t.
  17. You can’t compare your family with the family next door. You just can’t.
  18. You can’t buy your children’s love, and your can’t expect your children’s love. You just can’t.
  19. You can’t assume that your children will value the things you value and prioritize the things you prioritize. You just can’t.
  20. You can’t only focus on external obedience, neglecting the core issues of the heart. You just can’t.
  21. You can’t run yourself ragged attempting to be the “entertainer” of your children. You just can’t.
  22. You can’t worry about all the mistakes you are going to make on a daily basis. You just can’t.
  23. You can’t forget about all the great choices you are going to make on a daily basis. You just can’t.
  24. You can’t trust that anyone or anything else is going to replace the opportunities you have to disciple your children. You just can’t.
  25. You can’t assume that you are going to be the only one who is going to disciple your children. You just can’t.
  26. You can’t assume that your children are making “good choices” just because you taught them “good choices.” You just can’t.
  27. You can’t know everything your children need to know. You just can’t.
  28. You can’t help your children be missional minded if you’re working so hard to insulate them from the world. You just can’t.
  29. You can’t expect that your actions and your words won’t shape your children. You just can’t.
  30. You can’t believe that your children are inherently “good.” You just can’t.
  31. You can’t believe that your children can’t or won’t ever change. You just can’t.
  32. You can’t live tomorrow’s parenting struggles with today’s grace. You just can’t.
  33. You can’t expect that your children will know Jesus because you attend church every Sunday, “do good,” and “follow the rules.” You just can’t.
  34. You can’t assume that your thoughts, feelings, and ideas about parenting won’t change. You just can’t.
  35. You can’t assume that your children will consistently behave without consistent discipline. You just can’t.
  36. You can’t assume that your children will consistently behave with consistent discipline. You just can’t.
  37. You can’t expect that your children will do what the books say they should do. You just can’t.
  38. You can’t keep them little, and you can’t make them big. You just can’t.
  39. You can’t believe that the best memories are behind. You just can’t.
  40. You can’t expect that two children from the same family are going to act like the same children. You just can’t.
  41. You can’t expect that good memories are only made of happy moments. You just can’t.
  42. You can’t parent well when you’re consumed with doing it “right,” and “best,” and “perfect.” You just can’t.
  43. You can’t take good care of your kids without taking good care of you. You just can’t.
  44. You can’t and didn’t birth robots, unicorns, and fairy tales. You just can’t.
  45. You can’t live every day believing that every day will always be today. You just can’t.
  46. You can’t believe that more sleep, or less whining, or more coffee, or less sugar will make your life better. You just can’t.
  47. You can’t live believing that more control will give you more control. You just can’t.
  48. You can’t believe that your #1 goal in life is to live your life void of struggles. You just can’t.
  49. You can’t assume that you’re the only parent who has ever thought, felt, or struggled like you have. You just can’t.
  50. You can’t live expecting “you can” do anything without Him. You just can’t.

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